Lying in the Media

Pretty Little Liars. The Lying Game. Lie to Me. 

All of these are titles to popular shows on television right now with the word “lie” right in the title. With such a large viewing audience, one has to wonder whether these shows encourage their viewers to lie. The general consensus is “yes.” These shows entrap their audience so much so that they feel as if lying is okay. But, it is not just television that encourages lying, social media also is a ringleader in the lying game.

According to Salty Waffle, Facebook makes us lie.

“An online image is easier to control and to manage than a face-to-face one that doesn’t always allow for tidying up or deleting certain parts of, but my experience is that people are actually more honest online than they are in person because of the small layer of separation,” Mitchell Cuevas, the author of the Salty Waffle article, said.

And he is right. The internet is a whole different world in which a person can be someone other than them self because there is that layer of separation. It’s so easy to fill your “About Me” section on Facebook with lies because someone who has never met you before would never know. You could be a lawyer in the world of the internet when you are actually a garbage man. You could also easily make your age say 27, when in fact, you are 35. And, when your pictures don’t do justice to your “age,” photo editing software is always readily available to get rid of those crows feet.

Surprisingly, when research was done to prove this, it came up with opposite results. People were actually honest. Yes, they were honest. BUT, if you look at the research done, only 236 people were used, and with 70 million users on Facebook, this is only a small percentage of those users.

So, it seems that the only conclusive way to know whether or not Facebook makes us lie is to take a good look at ourselves; and by ourselves, I mean our real selves as well as our online selves. Did you fabricate something in your about me? How about your profile picture, is it edited? If you answered “yes,” to both of these questions, don’t worry, you’re not alone. And if someone ever confronts you about it, I believe you have the right to say:

FACEBOOK MADE ME DO IT!

Pathological Lying: An Introduction

Many of us have heard the term “pathological liar,” but many of us also have no idea what the heck that means, which is why I am going to explain exactly what one is.

According to depressionD.org, a pathological liar is a liar that is compulsive or impulsive, lies on a regular basis and is unable to control their lying (think a certain someone that we watched a movie about sophomore year).

The only difference between Stephen Glass and a clinical pathological liar is  that his lies helped him, at least for a little bit. But, for real pathological liars, their lies tend to have a self-destructive quality. Why anyone would want to lie to hurt themselves, I don’t really know, but then again, that is why this is a disorder.

There are many causes of pathological lying, some of which include: a dysfunctional family, substance abuse, compulsive personality disorders (such as compulsive shopping, yes that’s a real disorder), and sexual or physical abuse as a child.

There are four types of pathological liars, which are listed below.

DISCLAIMER: Have no fear if you find yourself fitting any of the following types of pathological liars, for most people, it just means you’re…creative.

Number 1: Pseudologia Fantastica, or in simpler terms, The Daydreamers

These people find themselves stuck in a world of facts and fiction and get so encompassed by it that they cant even distinguish their lies from their truths.

Number 2: Habitual Liars

The habitual liar lies so much that it becomes a habit (Liars Anonymous, anyone?). Because of this, habitual liars really don’t even think about what they say or of the outcome; it is so natural for them to lie that it basically becomes a reflex. They don’t even give off any signs that they are lying (not even a slight twitch).

 Number 3: Impulsive Pathological Liars
Now, you can’t help but to feel bad for these liars simply because they can’t exactly help it. The impulsive pathological liar lies due to an impulse control problem, which is usually caused by a disruption of the production of serotonin in the brain (the stuff that makes you happy).
Number 4: Substance Abuse Pathological Liar
 
Well, this one is simple. These types of liars are drug addicts who lie to conceal or justify their addiction. The End.

What was your first lie?

A collection of first lies from local teens:

Josh, 19, Neptune – “I told my first lie when I was about six years old. I was at the dollar store with my mom and they had bins of little plastic army men and I really wanted one. So, I took one and before we checked out my mom told me to put it back, but, instead of putting it back I put it in my pocket. When my mom saw me playing with it later, she asked me if I had taken it from the store and I said that I had found it under the couch.”

Gabby, 17, Avon – “When I was little, my mom would always ask me if I said my prayers and I always told her that I did even though I didn’t.”

Adam, 17, Avon – “Whenever something was broken in my house when I was younger, my mom would always question my brother’s and I about who broke it and we would always say, ‘I didn’t do it.'”

Will, 17, Long Branch – “I found a Super Mario tennis game and when I got home I realized someone had already beaten it, so I wanted to keep it. I told my mom I lost the one I already had, which was a lie so that I didn’t have to give it back. Then, she saw I had two and I got caught…”

Debra, 18, Lincroft – “I told my brother he was adopted because he had blue eyes and no one else in our family did.”

What was your first lie? Leave me a comment telling me about it and don’t be ashamed, your first lie is a GOOD thing!

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The Most Common Lie of All: I Didn’t Do It

Typical example of a child lying.

The Invention of Lying in Each of Us

Have you ever wondered when, exactly, you began to lie? Personally, as far as I can remember, I began lying in the 2nd grade when I wrote a note to my friend telling her I hated her and then when her parent’s got involved I told them I was just kidding…

Anyways, scientific studies have been conducted to determine precisely when we begin lying.

According to MSNBC and Dr. Gail Saltz, we start lying as early as 4 to 5, when we realize the power of language and how exactly to use it. At first, our intent is not to be malicious; instead, we used lying to test what we could manipulate in our tiny, 5 year old lives. But, the times of cutesy lies is short lived once we realize that we can use lying to get us out of trouble or to get us that new Barbie that we’ve been gawking at in K-Mart for the last 3 weeks.

To get a taste of childhood lying, check out the video posted above this!

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The Biggest Liar.

Let’s face it, we’ve all told a lie. Whether it be a tiny white lie or something of a bigger scale, we have all fabricated some type of information at least once in our lives. I mean, not everyone can be like this guy

While the fact that we all lie is undoubtedly true, I want to know more, therefore I created this blog. Through “The Biggest Liar” my goal is to expose the truth behind lies. Some topics that will be covered include: when we begin lying, why we lie, pathological lying and white lies. My plan is to research each topic fully, both scientifically and socially by posing a question of the week.

I don’t know exactly what I will come to find by doing this blog, but what I do know is that sooner or later, the truth will come out.